“Like apples of gold in a setting of silver is a word spoken in right circumstances.” Proverb 25:11
Expressing our feelings can be way overrated! Who said if you think it or feel it you must express it. That may sound upsetting, but so much could have been avoided if we stopped to taste our words. Honestly, it does take discipline not to blurt out hurtful words when we are rubbed the wrong way. Some feel they must let that person have it. They may be right at times. However, there are many of times that we should say nothing, walk away and think it through. Ask, why am I upset. If we are honest with ourselves we will learn a lot. Often times we are really so upset because of a previous wounds that someone callously irritated. The level of anger triggered at that moment is much more than the situation even merits, but since we are not only reacting to the one stimulus, but the many other things in the past that sent the same message indicating that we are, for example, incompetent, GOD help the recipient. Unknowingly, this person has walked into a war which started before they were born, if they’re children.
As Christians, self-control is a fruit that seems to grow slowly. We are all under construction but as we grow we learn to hear the words we are about to say and weigh it against the Word of GOD. Sometimes we are speaking in order to satisfy something within us. Our motive, which contributes to our thoughts, is one of the main culprits. Why am saying these words to her? Why am I trying to defend myself? Ask the Holy Spirit for help and the answers will come. Even when the other person is wrong, I am the only person, I have the responsibility of controlling.
Those who guard their lips preserve their lives, but those who speak rashly will come to ruin. Prov 13:3
It is a great investment to preserve our words and see if they should even be said at another time or weighed and thrown out. Not everything has to be said. When we hold it and take it to GOD sincerely, HE often works on us and change our hearts. Let you and I try not to blurt what is sure to hurt.